Couples Therapy
Whatever the Situation, Consider Couples Therapy
Couples who want to survive infidelity…
Couples find themselves near divorce for many different reasons.
Partners often share their sense of loneliness and uncertainty of the future.
They frequently express shame about the decision and fear judgment from family, friends, and their religious community.
They are fearful of the impact on their children.
Couples who want to survive infidelity…
Not all couples who experience infidelity want to divorce.
In fact, more often than not, they want to survive the infidelity by understanding what went wrong and
how they can work to affair-proof the relationship.
Couples looking to improve connection and passion…
Work commitments, raising a family, or life getting in the way often prevent couples from seeking connection with one another.
Partners feel isolated within the relationship. They want to turn to their partner, but they feel disconnected and hold it inside.
This then increases the loneliness, because the partner can’t turn to the other with their feelings of inner turmoil.
Couples who have fallen out of love with one another…
Couples who turn away from each other often talk of “falling out of love.”
They are disconnected and begin doubting how much they can rely on their partner.
Often, this leads to the idea of self-reliance is the answer, which increases distance and lack of connection.
Couples who feel more like roommates…
Living in the same home with someone to whom you feel little connection is incredibly lonely.
Sharing the joys or sorrows of the day may seem like too much effort… like too much of an emotional risk.
The relationship seems more like two lives running in parallel.
Couples who never seem to resolve conflict…
Old issues keep coming up, and the fighting never seems to get them anywhere. “Agreeing to disagree,” these problems resurface in the next argument.
Not knowing how to talk about these problems without escalating into an argument, these couples frequently feel confused and defeated. Partners often say their partner doesn’t understand them or the importance of the issues. Then it just stalls
It is incredibly exhausting going round and round on the same merry-go-round.
I have worked will all these couples… and more.
The Three Paths of a Life-Altering Decision
Stay the course…
Commit to improve the relationship…
End the relationship with integrity…
I work to help you decide which of the three paths to take.
I work with many types of couples who are trying to make this life-altering decision.
If you or your partner is contemplating divorce but have not decided… let me help you.
Relationships Change over a Life Together
Passionately dating… to engagement, to newlyweds… to parents of small children, to parents of teens… to empty nesters, to golden years.
Possibly chronic illness or job loss filters in there somewhere.
The point is, when we are planning the wedding initially, we do not focus on the trials and tribulations that spending a lifetime with someone entails.
Throughout all of these experiences, many couples begin to drift apart and turn away from one another.
Identifying the Cycles within the Relationship
Most couples have a clear cycle within the relationship. For example…
One partner may yell or criticize, while the other withdraws and shuts down. This then triggers increased yelling in an attempt to be heard, responded to, or change.
The withdrawing partner may feel blamed or feel as though nothing they do will make things better. So, they retreat even more.
Or…
One partner may feel invisible or unimportant to their partner… while the other, feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what to do, simply keeps quiet.
Both turn inward rather than turning to each other. In time, both begin feeling isolated and afraid for the relationship.
And the cycle goes on and on… never getting off the merry-go-round and never really resolving anything.
Do any of these scenarios feel familiar?
You can strengthen, rekindle, restore, or find peace in your relationship.
Give me a call to set up a free consultation. (719) 649-6066